Can we tell just by looking at someone if they were breastfed or bottle-fed? If they were given a dummy as a baby or perhaps sucked their thumb? If they were weaned on pureed foods or finger foods? Whether they slept through the night after a couple of months old or a couple of years?
No, and more importantly, what does it matter?
We are all different, we all had different entrances into the world, different upbringings, different education, every single person on our planet is different to another so why do we spend so much time comparing ourselves to one another? Why are we so hard on ourselves? And nowadays, with social media, we’re even comparing ourselves to people we don’t even know!!
A new Mum has SO much to take in and doesn’t need to spend any of the little energy she has left for herself in those early days, weeks and months feeling like she’s doing things wrong because she only sees what others are choosing to show the world.
Please try not to compare yourself to other people, they are not you. You are not them. You’re travelling your own journey, with good days and not so good days, but it’s your journey, yours alone and you make your decisions on how to live it, each and every day.
Close your eyes, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re doing amazingly right here, right now, with what you know and what you have.
Be proud of yourself, this life thing can be challenging at times but by supporting one another instead of comparing ourselves to each other, we can all do this!
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.” - Zen Shin